Dear Mr. Turner –
In a recent public letter you described your son Brock Turner, who brutally sexually assaulted a young woman behind a dumpster at Stanford University and was found guilty of the crime, as a “victim.”
“He excelled in school that quarter earning the top GPA for all freshmen on the swim team,” the father wrote in his letter. “What we didn’t realize was the extent to which Brock was struggling being so far from home. … When Brock was home during the Christmas break, he broke down and told us how much he was struggling to fit in socially.
“In hindsight, it’s clear that Brock was desperately trying to fit in at Stanford and fell into the culture of alcohol consumption and partying,” Dan Turner concluded. “This culture was modeled by many of the upperclassmen on the swim team and played a role in the events of Jan 17th and 18th 2015.”
Based on your claim, I have to wonder just how unaware, tone deaf, and socially deficient you are, and whether your sexual predator son inherited your lack of a moral compass. The apple apparently doesn’t fall far from the tree in this case. You may not have committed sexual assault yourself during your life, but your attempts to excuse the inexcusable certainly point to a lack of ethics and perhaps an inability to distinguish right from wrong that goes beyond simply wanting to protect your spawn tell me much of what I need to know about how you raised him and what kind of values you instilled in him.
Let’s get something straight: your son is a sexual predator. Period. He penetrated an unconscious female with his fingers behind a dumpster. He did not get her permission to penetrate her. He simply did it and left her bleeding on the ground after she had fallen. It does not matter that he was drunk. It does not matter that she was. This was not “20 minutes of action,” as you so callously refer to it. This was the forcible violation of another human being – something your son had no right to do, no matter how much alcohol he consumed. He is not a victim. He is an adult who should have been held accountable for his violent, callous actions.
But instead, he got a slap on the wrist with nary a thought to the victim he left bleeding on the ground.
I repeat – he penetrated her without her permission. He left her bleeding on the ground behind a garbage dumpster.
And yet, here you are telling the world how he’s so traumatized, he doesn’t want to eat steak anymore???
Are you that inhuman and callous? Are you that devoid of values and principles? What the hell is wrong with you?
Yes, alcohol consumption can be dangerous, and yes, it is a problem on college campuses, especially among previously-sheltered kids who are away from home for the first time and are exploring their independence by sucking down as much cheap beer as they can get their hands on. But you know what? Alcohol doesn’t cause sexual assault. It makes it easier for a predator to victimize his prey, because sexual predators look for vulnerable women and also because alcohol lowers inhibitions. But ultimately, the decision to assault an unconscious or even a barely conscious victim, whom you appear to have forgotten in your rotten attempt to defend your kid, belongs to him.
And for that, he deserves to go to prison – and for much longer than the six months he received at the hands of an equally tone deaf judge who thought your clean-cut athlete boy deserved leniency after he penetrated her and left her behind a dumpster where she was “found breathing, unresponsive with her underwear six inches away from her bare stomach curled in fetal position.”
He does not deserve leniency. He attempted to run when caught in the act by two guys riding their bikes past the scene. He apparently knew enough to know what he was doing was wrong, since he tried to take the coward’s way out and run away. He attempted to leave an unconscious woman whom he had been humping like a rabid badger in heat bleeding behind a dumpster, while he made a run for it. And you talk about that slap on the wrist he received from that pathetic judge as harsh? You think that’s a “steep price?”
Not once in your ridiculous appeal did you mention the victim! Not once did you consider that there was this human being that your son violated! Not once did you consider the woman he attempted to leave bleeding and unconscious behind a dumpster as he tried to run away from his actions that night!
Oh, your boy won’t eat? Oh, he is “shattered” and so is your family?
Did you ever once consider how the family of your son’s victim felt when they had to read media reports about her assault? About her being found with her underwear off and pine needles jammed up her vagina? With abrasions and bruises, exposed to the world?
You know why he has to register as a sex offender? Because he is one!
There are men out there whose lives have been forever ruined by false accusations. Their lives will never be the same. And the women who falsely accused them have made it more difficult for actual rape victims to step forward and get justice.
The only person who ruined Brock Turner’s life forever is Brock Turner.
Your son is the type of person my son has had to physically toss out of his fraternity parties because he was acting creepy with women, and you’re upset that he isn’t in the mood to eat a grilled ribeye?
I have news for you, Mr. Turner. Your son deserves it and so much more!
And the fact that you don’t see that makes you part of the problem.