Gosh, I can’t imagine why stereotypes exist!

People always tell us not to generalize. They always tell us that prejudice is a bad thing. Stereotypes are supposed to be a negative, because we’re all individuals with our own intellectual capacity to think, reason, and act.

But you know what? Stereotypes exist for a reason. They don’t just appear out of thin air. They usually exist because some very loud, very visible group exemplifies particular traits – not without outliers, mind you, but still…

H/T Terminal Lance

H/T Terminal Lance

A few years ago there was a dependapotomus who wrote a blog post complaining that the wives of National Guardsmen have no business calling themselves “Army wives.” If you didn’t know, a “dependapotamus” is a stereotype of a military wife – usually overweight, looking to cash in on her husband’s paycheck and PX and commissary privileges, shitting out scores of kids, and acting like her husband’s rank is her own by demanding the respect afforded to her spouse, even though the only thing she did to earn it was spend his paycheck and spread her legs.

(OK, I’ll post the disclaimer, because I’m sure to get a bunch of offended women screeching about how #notallmilitarywives. No, hardly all military wives fit that profile, but there obviously has been a sufficient amount of them who do, that the stereotype exists in the first place.)

Back to the aforementioned dependapotomus, however.

The precious spoiled princess took it upon herself to insult wives of National Guard Soldiers (and build herself up in the process) by claiming they weren’t “real Army,” because her “hubs,” deployed and still wore the uniform upon return, while those other guys went back to their civilian lives.

The blowback was epic and quick. She shuttered her blog after hundreds of comments – almost all of them negative – took her to task on her attitude of entitlement, and someone contacted the Vermont recruiting command where “hubs” worked, prompting a response that included some counseling time for “hubs.”

Dependapotomi – they may not be all fat and trailer trashy, but they do have a certain attitude in common.

This brings me to a post on ASMDSS – Awesome Shit my Drill Sergeant Says – a military humor site that recently received some hate mail from a dependapotomus that proves our point for us. If you wonder why stereotypes exist, you only have to look at this email in all it’s illiterate glory.

From: f*ck@you.com

Location: f*ck you

IM going to start these by saying i am a army wife with a bachlors degree in womens studies so i KNOW that you idiots are full of sh*t when you constantly bash women and army wifes for being lazy and fat? are you f*cking serious and yes we do serve as much as our husband we keep the homes in order and the kids safe while you get to go run around and play solider. its f*cking bullsh*t and its a full time job for us so get down off your hi horses and calm the f*ck down with that stupid sh*t it pisses me off. sometimes we get a little overweight from not having time to go to the gym and stuff but human anitomy shows that woman are supposed to have some fat. so shut the f*ck up and man up you stupid little boys. i could easy get a job if i wanted especially since i am a college graduate and hard worker but id rather not put my kids in day care and let someone else raise them. so go f*ck yourselfs and get off army wifes dicks! we are not f*cking dependas you men are! you dependa on us to take care of you the kids and the house. ok im done peace

Yep, I wonder why stereotypes exist… this is exactly what I would expect to read from someone with a degree in wymyns “studies.”

I do wonder what kind of college university would allow someone to graduate from their institution who has the written communication skills of a monkey on meth.

For the epic slapdown of this dependa’s communication skills, please do yourself a favor and read the rest.

But aside from all that, while I certainly don’t approve of bullying – whether in cyber space or in real life – once again, stereotypes exist for a reason. Reason such as this.

spouse 2

 

And this.

spouse 1

And maybe even this.

spouse 3

 

Now, as another disclaimer, I will admit that these photos could have been Photoshopped and the email could have been faked for humor purposes. That said, having lived on base as a single Soldier, and having experienced the phenomenon that is the military wife (and not necessarily the American-born type, either), out drinking and picking up REMF Jodie at the base club a few days after the spouse’s unit deployed, I can say once again that stereotypes exist for a reason.

20 responses

  1. Paul (Drak Bibliophile) Howard

    Problems with the site? Had a hard time finding this post and when I found it, I couldn’t comment. (Commenting via email).

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    1. I think WordPress is being a dick again. Sorry.

      I’ll post the link on FB.

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      1. Paul (Drak Bibliophile) Howard

        Works now.

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  2. Paul (Drak Bibliophile) Howard

    What I find “interesting” about Stereotypes is that people who claim to hate them, have them about groups they dislike.😦

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  3. Some people have such a sense of entitlement… I admit I ask about a military discount because nothing ventured, nothing gained. If not? Oh well. At this point (11 years in the Guard as an O-3 CPT) I really cannot complain about my compensation. God forbid that there be an underlying truth to some stereotypes….. Sometimes a bad reputation is just earned….

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  4. I used to work at Ross. We sometimes marked some stuff down but *never* had sales because you’re practically shopping at a thrift store already. We had a senior discount but only one day of the week and you had to ask. No company *has* to offer discounts to anyone.

    As for the rest of it… I have some sympathy, but only some. Being a DW sucks. It sucked so bad that I went to the recruiter on base at Clark in the Philippines and put myself on a plane to San Antonio. But suckage does not excuse becoming an ass.

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  5. ….”homes in order and the kids safe while you get to go run around and play solider”. Play soldier? OMG how demeaning, really….she’s missing the whole point of the military. Same song and dance about entitled people who screech to the high heavens while never actually earning a thing, and letting others do the hard work for them. And yes I’ve seen plenty of people (one of whom is gearing up to be a dependapotomi right now) use atrocious grammar and reasoning skills like the above posts.

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  6. Ric’s Law #1: Toavoid being stereotyped, avoid stereotypical behavior. (I’m Ric, by the way.)

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  7. Just a couple of quick points. I have no college degree, and yet I do not find it impossible to write well enough to make myself understood. Some people who go to college spend too much time at frat parties, instead of maybe reading a book. I know people with masters degrees who are as dumb as a box of rocks.

    Second point, I live in a trailer park. I work in a different trailer park. I like to think that I am not trailer trash. That being said, the stereotype exists for a reason. The parks are full of people that I, even though I try not to, think that I am better then. I work, I don’t do drugs, and the police never come to my door unless I call them. They are also full of people who simply choose to live there, as is our case. For the record, I would rather be in the woods on 40 acres with no neighbors, but my wife wouldn’t and I love my wife. Life is all about compromise.

    As far as the neighbor’s dog using your yard for a toilet, I have a 2 step approach to the problem. 1, ask the neighbor to stop. 2, if that doesn’t work, calmly pick it up yourself. Ok, 3 steps, you have to return the dogshit to the neighbor and place it on his front steps. It has only taken one time, but the neighbor got the point, and I never had to repeat the approach again.

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    1. You forgot the “set the poo on fire” step. LOL

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  8. Hey Nicki, i was wondering if you would join the military today with the way that everything is going, just wondering since i’m debating on joining.

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    1. I would definitely do it. Both my kids did. My son leaves for basic training in June. I think it’s times like these when the military is needed more than ever.

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      1. Thanks, it’s been on my mind for a while.

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        1. Do it! There’s no greater satisfaction. Seriously.

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      2. Well i got a while before then, i’m a homeschool student and have to get my diploma first, and lose weight.

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        1. Good luck to you. It can change your life if you have your wits about you, which you sound like you do.🙂

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  9. Funny thing about stereotypes. About fifteen years or so ago I was working in a job and one of my coworkers appeared to be a stereotypical gay man, very fussy in his mannerisms. Not that there’s anything wrong with that. One Friday, the group was planning to do an impromptu happy hour, and I, being younger and less mature, popped off and said something like “Bob (not his real name) will probably have to check with his boyfriend”. At which point I got told that, “No, Bob’s not gay, he’s got a wife and a couple of kids”. Sure enough, there was a picture on his desk I’d never noticed, so I told myself, “Self, you really shouldn’t pay attention to stereotypes so much.”

    Fast forward a few years, I’m in a different job, and I run across someone at the previous job and am catching up and one of the first things I get told is, “Did you hear about Bob? He left his wife and has moved in with a boyfriend”. So yeah, try not to pay attention to stereotypes, but they do exist for a reason…

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  10. Baron von Cut-n-Paste

    The reason stereotypes exist is because of greedy capitalists.
    After all, you don’t necessarily need 23 types of home sound systems when children are hungry in this country

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  11. CDR Salamander posted an outstanding takedown of an overly-entitled dependa from the CO of Naval Base Ventura: http://cdrsalamander.blogspot.com/2009/03/capt-brad-conners-usn-salamander-leader.html

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    1. Oh, that was beautiful! An oldie, but a goodie.

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