Back from Thanksgiving Hiatus

My son came home for Thanksgiving. I miss him daily while he’s in college, but I didn’t realize how difficult it would be to say “goodbye” when he drove off on that misty, chilly Sunday morning. I hadn’t seen him since I helped him move into his dorm in late August, and it seemed impossible that this kid grew another inch and matured another mile during this time!

I have a photo 2012-9-14-RedWineof his 11th birthday celebration framed on my desk. He had moppy ginger hair and a baby face. I can’t help but see that little boy in my clean-cut, somewhat clean-shaven… sort of… young man.

So, I decided to cut my blogging for the week and enjoy the time I had with the kid. We got last minute tickets to the Caps / Jets game, which the Caps won, and which we watched from very cool seats in a suite at Verizon Center. We went to get coffee at the Starbucks where he used to work. We celebrated Thanksgiving with my parents and ate too much food. I’m currently still getting over the food coma!

Now it’s back to work. Back to reality. Back to the problems I left behind for at least a while.

I told Danny this would be a lean holiday this year, and he was beyond understanding. I’m sure Sarah will be as well. I raised my kids to appreciate the love they get and even small gifts that are given with love will be treasured! grimes

Yes, I will have to take the house off the market and hand it over to the bank, because I can no longer afford to pay the mortgage and my rent. I’ve put thousands of dollars into that place, and thanks to that child-molesting scumbag Cooper and his shrew having first stolen, and then wrecked my house, the time to sell it has passed, and I will lose thousands of dollars both in equity and in repairs. But hey… at least I won’t be financially responsible for it any longer. And maybe we can stop living paycheck to paycheck when I won’t have to pay the mortgage in addition to my rent anymore.

Overall, I’ve got a lot to be grateful for. I didn’t do a blog post for Thanksgiving about it, because I didn’t want to think about all the crap that went wrong this year, and then sit around trying to look on the bright side of every single shitty event. Frankly, examining each sore is exhausting, and trying to come up with something positive like a bandage to cover it is even more so. In the end you kind of wind up looking like Rick Grimes after a fight with an abusive spouse.

I’m just grateful to be still alive, still healthy, have a great set of kids and animals, and a balcony where I can sit and sip a glass of wine after work. And oh, boy, I’ve gone through a lot of wine!




6 responses

  1. Nicki, I’m so sorry to hear that you have to give up the house. I can’t begin to know how gut wrenching that must be.
    There will be a huge weight taken from your shoulders, but still……

    I’m glad you got to spend some quality time with your boy.



  2. Missed you here, Nicki, but I figured you were taking some family time. Good to find that was the case. Sorry that things have been so rough for you lately, but I hope and expect that next year will be better.

    Illegitimi non carborundum.


  3. Very sorry to hear that the house situation has become untenable, especially after all the heartache and trouble you went through with it. If you need a bright side, though, just remember that you’re a thousand times the person Cooper and his wife could ever hope to be.

    Tomorrow morning you’ll still be you, and they’ll still be a child-molesting sore on the ass of humanity and an enabling, hypocritical harridan, respectively. That’s gotta be a bright side, right? 🙂


  4. I am so glad you were able to have time off to spend with your son. I was able to spend some time with one of my sons this last couple of weeks deer hunting, and I didn’t see a single deer, but it was the best season in all of my life. I have not been able to hunt with my son for about 25 years, and I would not give this year up for anything.
    As for losing the house, it sucks, but it is just a house, no longer a home. I know financially it has hurt, but I have said that life has to pull you through a few knotholes to finally smooth out the rough edges and get you where you need to be. I am getting quite smooth, but I have a lot of splinters, in places I can’t talk about.
    As far as going through a lot of wine, I always thought it was the other way around.


  5. I haven’t lost my house, but I did lose a business that financially wrecked me, and I came close to losing my house too, so I understand your stress. It takes a while but you can and will recover. Like me, you’ll look back later and chalk it up to life’s education. You’re a strong woman. In fact, just visiting here when you post, I feel like some of it rubs off on me 🙂

    As far as lean Christmases go … our family, my parents, me and the spouse, and my kids all voted to skip the gift giving a couple years ago and concentrate on family getting together. We’re all happier for it. No more stress on what to give or where to get the money. Granted, this was more stress on my kids and parents than it was for us. But we’re happy that the stress has been lifted from them and we all actually laugh and smile more during the holidays. (My grandkids are just barely in their teens so they’re exempt and we still buy for them, but that’s as far as it goes.)


    1. Wow… that’s pretty wonderful! I’d love to do that with my family, but the tradition of gift giving is pretty strong, and I feel guilty when my parents, aunt, cousins, etc. send presents, and I’ve got nothing. That’s why we’re going with lean this year. Something small for everyone (in Russian it’s called “znak vnimaniya” or sign of attention) that basically says, “No, I haven’t forgotten you.” For us, it’s not about the gifts per se, but more about showing that we remembered our loved ones this year. It’s a weird Russian thing. LOL

      I’m gratified some of my attitude rubs off on you! That’s really great to know. I’ve often said I write for catharsis – and mostly for myself. That said, it’s always good to know when your efforts make an impact! 🙂


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