No, milspouses are NOT veterans!

Military.com recently published an entitled, whining, self-aggrandizing, sniveling post by a military spouse, who has decided that she’s just not getting enough recognition for her petty little satisfaction, because, you see, military spouses support their veterans, and that entitles them to the same recognition as those who take an oath to protect this nation, and dammit, they’re not getting a three-day weekend!

I had to re-read this yammering grievance several times just to make sure I wasn’t misreading what this self-entitled twit was saying. Nope. I’m not. Apparently a Military Spouse Appreciation Day is just not satisfactory!

…did anyone get a three-day weekend on Military Spouse Appreciation Day?

No, Cupcake. Maybe when you spend some time dodging bullets, patrolling a perimeter, defending this nation and risking your worthless life, someone will give you a three-day weekend too. Until then, shut your entitled yap!

Does anyone outside of military spouses know when Military Spouse Appreciation Day is? I didn’t think so.

Is the gratitude of your spouse, your community and the veterans you support just not sufficient? Let me give you a clue, Cupcake. If you do it for the recognition, it makes you a self-serving brat, not someone who sacrifices anything for her loved one! And we don’t honor self-serving brats in this country, so stick that up your self-absorbed orifice!

There is a reason why at every re-enlistment, change of command or retirement ceremony I’ve ever been to that the spouse receives recognition and, sometimes, flowers. There is a reason why servicemembers always thank their spouse when they reflect back on their careers. Being in the military affects the entire family.

Gratitude is not enough. Recognition is not enough. Must you also belittle your spouse’s work by appropriating the gratitude this nation gives him and others like him who do the job you haven’t volunteered or expended the effort to do?

When you see a veteran, you can be sure there is a “veteran” spouse, family and/or children supporting him or her. These spouse veterans don’t get a nationally recognized three-day weekend, but they serve just the same.

They SERVE? Lemme give you a clue, Cupcake! You made the commitment to stand by your spouse when you took your vows. You love him and support him, because that is the promise and commitment you made when you married him.  While we appreciate your support, it certainly cannot compare to risking your life every day in the world’s shitholes. And your claim that your keeping your marriage vows is somehow equivalent to military service is downright offensive!

Most of us are aware of what servicemember veterans have given for our country, but the sacrifices of their spouses — sacrifices that contribute to the servicemember being able to carry out their duties — sometimes go unnoticed.

That doesn’t make you entitled to a three-day weekend, Cupcake.

So today, on Veterans Day, and despite my husband’s better judgment, I want to thank the person behind the veteran: the military-spouse veteran.

Well, aren’t you sweet to appropriate part of the gratitude your husband receives – against his advice, no less! – for your own!

Military-spouse veterans have given up careers. It’s not complaining or being sour when military spouses point out that they have put their careers or higher education on hold due to frequent moves. It’s just the truth.

The government knows this is a sacrifice, and that’s why divorced spouses are entitled to a portion of the servicemember’s retirement if they were married for at least 10 years of that member’s service.

No one is denying military spouses don’t have it easy, but this bitch’s sense of entitlement is absolutely beyond offensive and unreal! Loving your spouse is not akin to sacrifice. Living up to your vows is not sacrifice. Making a choice to support his career over yours is not sacrifice. Loving and caring for your family while your spouse is deployed is not a damn sacrifice! And if you think it is, maybe you shouldn’t be in this marriage, you twit.

Ten years of military marriage is 10 years that a spouse probably lost in building his or her own career and retirement. Ten years of military marriage is a commitment beyond matrimony; it’s a commitment to understanding that your spouse’s obligations are sometimes to our country first, and then to your family. It’s hard to be selfish when you’re married to the military.

Oh, it’s a commitment beyond matrimony? If you consider being married to your service member such a burden, what the hell are you doing married to him? You’re upset it’s hard to be selfish when you’re married to the military? This is your problem? You don’t get a chance to be selfish? You’re a disgusting pig!

Military-spouse veterans have done a lot of waiting. By the time my parents had been married for 23 years, my dad had accumulated 11 years of active-duty sea time. That’s basically half their marriage. It means that my mom did a lot of single-parenting and waiting.

With deployments increasing in frequency and length, today’s military spouses are spending even more time without their loved one. And the most difficult part about this process is that military spouses have no choice in it (outside of the fact that they fell in love with someone who happens to work for Uncle Sam).

Military spouses make the choice to remain. They make the choice to marry a service member. They take the oath to support and stand by them, and it is their responsibility to run the family while the service member is gone. But single-parenting and waiting are certainly not equivalent to being shot at, being blown up, being attacked, dodging IEDs, sleeping in tents, eating MREs and watching your buddies bleed to death in front of your eyes. Your attempt to steal credit that couldn’t match that suffering and to appropriate that honor is truly offensive.

Uncle Sam does not ask for any spouse’s approval to deploy a ship or unit. Furthermore, Uncle Sam has notoriously bad timing, and he doesn’t send people home when their spouse is in labor or their kids have pneumonia. Military spouses accept this, and (here’s the best part), they carry on anyway.

Yes, military spouses do their jobs. They take care of their families. They do so even when their spouse is not home. And because it’s apparently inconvenient, they deserve their glory on Veterans’ Day? You think it’s bad timing to be in labor or have a kid with pneumonia while your spouse deploys? How inconvenient do you think it is for your spouse to know that his baby is sick or his wife is in the hospital while he’s focusing on defending this nation, dodging bullets or getting attacked by insurgents, you ungrateful, whining narcissist?

Military-spouse veterans take care of the sick and injured. More and more servicemembers are returning home wounded. Their injuries are physical and emotional, and no one knows this better than the spouses.

The military has a commitment to care for our wounded veterans, but it is the spouse who shoulders most of the responsibility. They are the ones who are waiting in hospital and rehab hallways or relocating their families to be closer to better care.

Ever heard of “for better, or for worse,” Cupcake? Yes, military spouses have shouldered an enormous amount of stress or responsibility. They take care of their loved ones, and they stand by as their husbands and wives come back from deployment maimed and traumatized. But really… does this compare to the loss of a limb? To traumatic brain injuries? To Post-Traumatic Stress? Yes, it’s difficult, but is it as difficult as learning to function with one or no limbs?

You know what? This shouldn’t be a comparison of suffering, but that’s what it turns out to be, when someone as pathetically entitled and self-aggrandizing as this ignorant, blibbering twit grabs the center stage for herself!

The rest of this essay is much of the same pompous mantra about how military spouses are not getting their due by not being recognized as veterans, who ostensibly should receive a ton of free crap on Veterans’ Day.

Until this arrogant, presumptuous imbecile puts on a uniform, goes through basic training, deploys several times to a dangerous place, far away from her loved ones, lives under constant attack for months at a time, sees her friends bleed and die in front of her or comes home maimed, both physically and emotionally, she is NOT a veteran. She’s merely a dependapottamus seeking glory she didn’t earn.

 

25 responses

  1. Not all troops deploy. But all perform duties essential to defending the nation, and sign their life to the paperwork at the end.

    My wife and I have both been veterans and milspouses. Spouses are not veterans. And I’ve never seen flowers or awards at re-enlistments, only at retirement.

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    1. Are you the Author, Michael Z. Williamson? If so, when can we expect your next book? I’ve read a good number of them–bought them, in fact.

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    2. Working on two novels now, one due next fall, and a hardcover, signed edition of Freehold in May.

      I have a bibliography on my site.

      Thanks for the support.

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      1. Thanks for the information. Where will the signed edition be available? I usually buy your books at Barnes and Noble or Borders. Can you provide a link to your website?

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  2. I am a military wife.

    I do NOT share his rank.
    I do NOT take the risks he does.
    I do NOT share the blame for things that go wrong.
    I do NOT share to glory when things go right.

    I DO give him whatever he needs: love, comfort, advice, and support. *I* didn’t sign my life away to the military. He did. *I* signed my life to US and OUR family. THAT is where my duty lies. Not in recognition, but in the knowledge that I have helped even in a small way to raise good kids and make his life better, so that HE may give his all for US and his country.

    I am his rock. That is my glory and all I need🙂

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  3. To a degree, I agree with this blog post. The veteran’s wife signs on to her marriage…not the military service. She IS honored by the military. Not a post I was ever stationed at failed to have family services designed to help families of service members in times of stress or trouble. She’s given an ID card with which she can shop at the PX or Commissary. (We used to buy frozen stuffed crab there for a DIME apiece.

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    1. Here’s my thing. You do what is right, because it is right, not for the recognition. You abide by your vows, you take care of your family, because it is your responsibility, not because you expect freebies. You do it, because you love your spouse, and that should not be considered a sacrifice! EVER!

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  4. He is a great author. I thoroughly enjoy his military science fiction. Please tell him THANKS for the many enjoyable hours I’ve spend reading his novels.

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    1. I’m sure he will read it here.🙂

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  5. “There is a reason why at every re-enlistment, change of command or retirement ceremony I’ve ever been to that the spouse receives recognition and, sometimes, flowers.”
    She should be grateful she didn’t receive a neatly folded flag.

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    1. Wow- wish I’d said that. You are dead on the money FrankC…

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  6. Ms. Nicki – don’t let this, ahhh- Woman (not a lady by any means) bother you. In between trips to shit-holes and trips to practice-shit-holes I stood gates at various posts. Used to have to salute the little blue sticker regardless of who was actually driving or in the car… when one of the newbies would decide not to salute because they could see it wasn’t the commander or obviously wasn’t the officer… well, I had MORE than a few stop traffic and bitch LOUDLY about the “failure to render due and proper respect to their spouse…” We joked and swore they all got together and practiced because damn near every one started with, “Do you know who my husband is!?” I suspect some Tribune’s wife gave the legionaires at the gates crap when she rode passed them and lord, the Velites in Rome itself who should’ve know better… Just one of those things that comes with the profession I’m afraid… tho- I gotta admit I’d love to get a look at her spouse…. almost ready to bet on branch-rank-and range of MOSs..

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  7. And then there was what some spouses do.

    The scene: a Thursday afternoon at Loring AFB, Maine, sometime in 1986. My co-pilot calls: wants to know if he could crash at my place. We’d just gotten off a week of SAC Alert Duty. He came home to find the wife’s car. . gone. Enters the house. . . and not much there. His degree and sword from the Academy, a few photos, his books, and his clothes. Everything else was gone. She’d even drained the joint bank accounts.

    They had been married the day he graduated from the Air Force Academy, She’d followed him through pilot school and bomber school, and at ~3 1/2 years in. . . .just disappeared.

    But seven years to the day he graduated, she filed for divorce. Because now, even though she hadn’t been there. . . .she was now legally eligible for half of his retirement pay. It was almost as if she’d PLANNED it that way.

    This story DOES. however, have a happy ending. He transferred out of bombers, and into Special Ops C-130s. . . .and SEPARATED from service at 19 years, 11 months, and 20 days. Two weeks after separation (and a few years after what would have been his 20-year-point, he signed on with the Air National Guard, his longevity transferred over. . . . and after another 10 years flying C-130s, he has an even nicer pension coming. That the ex can’t touch. She wasn’t with him while he was a Guard officer, so, she gets none of his pension when he retires. Too bad, so sad. . . .

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  8. The vile bitch of an ex did everything she could to kill my military career. And eventually succeeded.

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  9. Hmmm, now there’s a question, if a milspouse is “serving,” and she bugs out of the marriage, can we court-martial her for desertion?

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    1. Now THAT would be outstanding! I can’t even describe the number of times I’d go to the club on base after a unit deployed to find it packed with military spouses looking for temporary playthings! So charge them with adultery!

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  10. No kidding, Nicki. We saw that all the time, when I was stationed on Guam. As soon as subs pulled out from Polaris Point, the sub-drivers wives were cruising JO’s at the Andersen O club. . . One of the guys in my Bomber Squadron there (the long-since de-activated 60th Bomb Squadron), call-sign “Slutpuppy”, claimed to have slept with the wives of most of the officers of a first-flight Los Angeles-class fast attack sub.. . .

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    1. Wow… the wives are repulsive whores, no doubt. But the Slutpuppy is a fucking douche. That’s just a dick move.

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      1. It’s worse than that. He ALSO had a daughter. Off some enlisted woman he was screwing IN FLIGHT SCHOOL. Last I checked, Fraternization was Conduct Unbecoming. . . .

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  11. It always amazed me how the O’s wives always thought they should be the leaders of the squadron wive’s club due to their husband’s rank.

    Gary W. Anthony
    MSgt, USAF, Ret.

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    1. Probably stems from the tradition in SAC that the base commander’s spouse was the “head” of the family services organization for that base.

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    2. Oh, yeah! I love that shit! RESPECT MY AUTHORITAH! MY HUSBAND IS A CAPTAIN!

      Fuck you, dumb bitch. When you put on a uniform and cover my ass in battle, we’ll talk. Otherwise, shut your yap, and get back to the book club, Cupcake!

      (Damn, did I really just say that? LOL!)

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